I'm a big fan of the tv show 2
broke girls. It's one of the few shows that makes me laugh and not just smile.
In one of the episodes Sophie (acted out by Jennifer Coolidge -also known as
Stifler's mom-) tells Max (interpreted by the super hot Kate Dennings) she was
like a balloon being attached to a rock that wouldn't let her fly and be the
best version of her. To Sophie that rock was Caroline and Max was supposed to
cut that cord in order to prosper and be happier.
Although I
couldn't disagree more in this case, those two are mutual support systems, I've
seen balloons unable to fly because of rocks in real life. Rocks that might be
holding us back for a good reason or for no reason, forever or just for a few
days…
It comes a moment
in your life were your circle of friends becomes more and more exclusive. You
learn the distinction between real friends and a walking by person. I think
it's because you know yourself better, you have -they have- tested your
friendship, and at some point you had to decide who will stay in your
life.
This process was
very painful. I used to have a very good friend but I guess we grew up and
didn't want to realize it. We turned out so different... We tried to hold on to
each other but he was forced, nothing felt organic or natural around us
anymore. We tried talking about it; make an effort to stay close. We couldn't
do it, we said goodbye although we see each other quite often we know we are
better off. I'm surprise I can even write about it. I cried so much over this
process...Regardless, it was the best decision I could make. I run into her
from time to time, we are very polite but we don't like to pretend so we go in
a different way after hellos.
My point is, don't
let people control your life or worst, suck the life out of you. People can be
exhausting so think if they are worth crying for. Is your friendship a give and
take? Is it balanced? If the answer is yes, fight for it. If not I'll say cut
the cord.
