I have put a lot of thought about
this post… I didn’t know if it’s too early to talk about it but I think it’s
important regardless how hard it’s going to be because of the relation between
depression and suicide.
First, I would like to say that I
never had the urge of putting an end to my suffering. Some refer to this as “not
being brave enough”… I personally think brave is the one that keeps fighting, quitters
can’t be called brave. And for those saying admitting a defeat takes courage I’ll
say life can only defeat you with death, surrender before is not an act to be
proud of.
I’ve red pretty upsetting comments
about people “supporting” Robin Williams choice. I’m sure they didn’t go thru
depression because one thing I know for sure is that it wasn’t my choice to not
being able to smile for days, incapable of getting out of bed or feeling
constantly miserable… It wasn’t his choice to kill him, it was his disease. Depression
is a serious and common disease and it happens to work like any other. You don’t
choose to be depressed the same way you don’t choose to have diabetes.
Reading this sort of things I
realize how strong the stigma of depression remains. People still comment on
others if they happen to know someone was going to therapy, and then it all
gets crazy if they happen to go to the psychiatrist. I find it repulsing. Will
you ever judge someone for going to the doctor? Or a cancer patient for receiving
Chimo? I don’t think so… So why is it that we had to put up with judgments for admitting
we needed professional help and for making everything in our hands for getting
better?
I don’t know what kept Robin from
reaching out. I understand shame could be it, but I hope it wasn’t that being surrounded
by people no one was patient enough to see what was hiding behind his smile.